Mini-Document Essay

 

Students enrolled in English 1102 classes taught by VSU Instructor Diane W. Howard during spring 2004 semester, read “Going Through the Change,” Janice Daugharty’s first collection of short stories.  After reading the collection, the students explored topics in the stories, relating them to their hometowns or communities. Simply put, the students related the ideas in a literary piece to their own lives, finding points or areas of similarity as well as areas of disagreement. Once they identified points—in agreement or in contrast—the students researched and wrote a mini-documented essay on the subject “Regional Identity.”

 

Dinnertime

by Janell Brocks

            In today’s society as it has been for many years food is thought of as a comfort and many times a conversational piece.  Many important events involve food.  People meet their blind dates for the first time at a corner restaurant.  Children bring their new friends and partners home for their parents to meet over dinner.  Business contracts are often negotiated and made at the tables of five star restraints.  So, whether it is a quick lunch date with an old friend or a quiet family dinner at home, the fact of sitting around a table sharing a meal is important in the American society.

            The dictionary defines dinner at the chief meal of the day.  However, the word has come to mean much more than that.  People sit down to dinner to gain a sense of togetherness.  During dinnertime many important facts or concerns about the participating parties are brought to light.  Often times life changing facts are brought out at dinner.   A husband may take his wife and children out to a new restaurant in town to inform them of his new prestigious position at work.  A wife may prepare a special meal to inform her husband of a suspected pregnancy.  A son can come home for dinner and announce to his parents his new found homosexuality.  Still, a wedding proposal may be made over dinner.  The fact of the matter is that the dinner table is an open field for the release of emotions.  The presence of the whole family makes it easy to convey important matters to everyone at the same time.  Janice Daugharty displays this fact about dinner in many of their short stories.

            Janice Daugharty in her short story “Nightshade” depicts the relationship of two parents Nelson and Grace with their troubled daughter Martha.  Martha is always getting into trouble and looking to her parents to bail her out.  She has been through drug addictions, drug dealing husbands, crazy slasher boyfriend and is now on her newest trend homosexuality.  Nelson is extremely disappointed in his only child and feels he does not even recognize her.  On her visit home Martha brings her new lesbian lover Sam although she knows her parents do not approve.  The last night of the visit, around the dinner table, emotions are let loose.  Martha attempts to blame her father for all of her crazy doings and it is at this time the parents put their foot down.  Grace tells her daughter “If you’re going to hook into every popular notion that comes along, at least be smart enough to look at the examples’ backgrounds. They might have been left in some messed-up man’s care, but you never were. You were never in that kind of situation, and your father was never that kind of man” (“Nightshade” 95-96). Nelson accuses her of being a “fake Queer” (“Nightshade” 94) and gives her an old fashion whooping.  Nelson knows he can no longer take his daughter’s charades.  On the final page of the short story Grace pleads with her husband on her daughter’s behalf. “Grace crept to the spot where he sat and kneeled before him, peering into his eyes with her hands on his shoulders. “ “No, Nelson,no,”” she said crying, “ “you can’t change her, accept her or let her go”” (“Nightshade” 99).  In the story the dinner scene is almost the final event and everything else just builds up to that climax.  Through this technique Janice Daugharty shows the importance of dinnertime and the underlying emotional context. 

            Another example of the dinnertime used as an emotional release in one of Janice Daugharty’s short stories comes about in her portrayal of a dysfunctional family in the short story “Living Lessons.”  In “Living Lessons” Daugharty describes the reaction of a small town white trash father who learns his two daughters have been put out of school because it was discovered that they had some black heritage.  When the girls arrive home in mid afternoon, the mother is sitting on her chair rocking and playing her juice harp as is her usual.  The oldest girl goes into the kitchen to cook dinner for the family.  As she is finishing in her father comes in.  The family sits down to dinner and the mother tells the girls came in early from school.  The father demands to know why and the oldest daughter says to him “I tell you what, Old Man,” … “we got run off, me and Lovie, cause they fount out we got nigger blood.” (“Living Lessons” 193)  There is a whirlwind of emotions at the dinner table. The girls try to deal with their shame and anger.  The mother feels ashamed because she knows the black half comes from her side.  The father is distraught on the mistreatment of his girls. (Daugharty “Living Lessons”)

            These dinnertime confessions and confrontations are often good for a family.  The dinnertime talks keep families informed about the goings on of one another and, offer some release for the built up tension.  With today’s on the go lifestyle and everyone always trying to keep up with the Jones’, many people have strayed from the cleansing dinnertime ritual.  The popularity of fast food and the drive through have become phenomenal. In his book Fast Food Nation, Eric Sclosser says the McDonald’s arches are a more widely recognized symbol than the cross (“Unhappy Meals). Most people grab a bite to at on the go and never sit down to enjoy a meal.  There are two or three fast food establishments at every corner.  Families no longer sit together and eat rather everyone goes their separate ways throughout the day.  This is a plague to our society.  “ Americans now spend $120 billion a year on fast food, more than on higher education, PCs, computer software or new cars, or on magazines, going to see films, recorded music, newspapers, videos and books combined (“Unhappy Meals”).  Little boys in Oklahoma made bombs in their rooms then took them to school to blow the school up.  When asked why the parents did not prevent it they had to truthfully reply that they did not know.  They had no idea their boys were so unhappy.  Much of why the parents did not know had a lot to do with not having open lines of communication.  The boys felt they had no way to express themselves.  Dinnertime is all about a time for a family to bond and voice concerns. 

            “ The American obsession with fast cheap food has replaced the desire for prepared meals” (“Fast Food”).  “Every day in America 200,000 people get food poisoning, 900 are hospitalized and 14 die” (“Fast Food Nation”).  The fast food trend that has gripped America is not only unhealthy for our bodies, but also for our spirits and our children’s spirits.  People need a time to come together to feel the closeness that a family is all about.  When this opportunity is not made possible people feel isolated.  Dinnertime is a necessary part of life for people of all ages.  Many people do still come together for holidays, but that alone is not enough.   People need to look back to their roots to when they were small and realize how crucial dinnertime was to them and previous generations.  New generations should not be denied those same opportunities especially when the world is becoming more and more hectic by the day.  In today’s society, dinnertime is more necessary than ever.